"A 15 year old child with autism was tasered by police in the state of Iowa in Johnston. The police used a stun gun several times against the child. Use of tasers against people with developmental disabilities or people with forms of mental illnesses is actually common. After a year-long investigation of the Portland police department, it was found that tasers are often times used and abused, in particular against people with developmental disabilities or people with mental illness. The Seattle Times stated, ‘The investigation singled out stun-gun use, saying officers frequently discharged them without justification or used them too many times on a given suspect.’"
Disabilities most likely to suffer police violence (WOO I’M ONE OF THE 6! Do I get a cookie?)
RIVERHEAD, N.Y. — It was moving day Monday for a newlywed mentally disabled couple who launched a court fight to be able to live together.
Paul Forziano and his wife, Hava, who fell in love seven years ago and were married in April, welcomed visitors including their parents, attorneys and reporters into their new second-floor apartment in a large house run by an agency that operates several group homes in Riverhead, on eastern Long Island.
"Happy, not sad," said Hava Forziano, who has limited verbal skills. “We can be together all the time now,” added her husband.
The couple and their parents filed a civil rights lawsuit this year, seeking to compel the group homes where they had lived separately until Monday to accommodate their wishes to live together as a married couple. Although the newlyweds were able to find a place to live, their attorney said Monday that the court fight will go on.
"You don’t know what’s going to happen in the future," said attorney Martin Coleman. “People like Paul and Hava have to have the ability to move around if they want to. There’s only a limited number of providers. We need to be sure they’re not closed out of places.”
The federal civil rights lawsuit contends Paul Forziano’s facility refused to allow the couple to live together because people requiring the services of a group home are by definition incapable of living as married people, and it says his wife’s home refused because it believes she doesn’t have the mental capacity to consent to sex.
Legal experts are watching the case closely as a test of the Americans With Disabilities Act, which says, in part, that “a public entity shall make reasonable modifications in policies, practices, or procedures … to avoid discrimination on the basis of disability.” The group homes are licensed as nonprofits by the state and receive Medicaid funding on behalf of their clients.
The facility where the former Hava Samuels lived has declined to comment because of the pending litigation. The group home operators where Paul Forziano lived said they didn’t have facilities available for a married couple.
Also named in the lawsuit is the state Office of Persons With Developmental Disabilities, which the couple claims sided with the agencies in refusing to accommodate their wishes and has not done enough to find a solution. The office has declined to comment.
Gus Lagoumis, director of programming at East End Disability Associates – operators of the facility the newlyweds now call home – said his agency has no objections to mentally disabled people living as married couples.
"Gone are the days where parents are told a kid has a disability, institutionalize them and forget they ever existed," he said. “Now we have people growing up in the community and they want to do things just like everybody else does and getting married and possibly getting divorced is one of the things that goes on in a community."
Paul’s mother, Roseann Forziano, said her son and his new wife likely would still be looking for a new place had it not been for the legal action.
"I don’t think it would have happened without a lawsuit." she said. “All of a sudden once you file a lawsuit there’s a whole lot of cooperation. I don’t want that to have to be the norm."
This is complete bullshit. They are in love (hence the reason they got married). I see no earthly reason why they should not be allowed to live together. Who is this marriage and cohabitation hurting? NO ONE. But it’s making people nervous, because adults with developmental disabilities shouldn’t behave like normal adults because, like the rest of us on disability, they are less than human. FUCK YOU NEW YORK STATE.
what i mean when i say “i can’t do that” - the depression edition
- i am unable to do that
- i don’t have the energy to do that
- i cannot wrap my head around what you’re asking me to do
- there is too much in my head right now
- i can not do that
what people hear:
- i am unwilling to do that
- i am being stubborn for no reason
- i am being dramatic
- i am lazy
- i need you to repeat that only louder
- i need a push
- i don’t want to do that
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This applies to PTSD as well (and bipolar and chronic illness…. Yeah you get the point)
Disability: Get Informed Protect Children
Stigma, ignorance, neglect, superstition and communication barriers for children with disabilities are among the social factors that explain their discrimination and isolation from society. Disability is a social issue — it results from the interaction between people with “long-term physical, mental, intellectual or sensory impairments which, in interaction with various barriers, may hinder their full and effective participation in society on an equal basis with others” (Article 1, Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disability). It is not the impairment itself, but rather attitudes and environmental barriers that result in disability. Children with disabilities are often ‘invisible’ to service providers and they are at greater risk of violence than their non-disabled peers. Children with disabilities are often disproportionately placed in alternative care, rather than remaining with their families. These raise concerns for their protection.
UNICEF’s strategy is to promote the recognition of all children as full members of society and the respect for all of their rights without any discrimination. We work with partners to promote the inclusion of children with disabilities into society by stimulating changes in attitudes and practices of the general public and service providers toward children with disabilities. Further, UNICEF works with governments to help ensure that family members of persons with disabilities, who are often the primary caretakers, and children with disabilities themselves, receive assistance from the State for disability-related expenses, adequate training, counselling, financial assistance and respite care. We also support efforts to ensure that all programmes, including recreational programmes, public services, facilities and relevant buildings are accessible.
For more information, please visit: http://www.unicef.org/sowc2013/
I am happy that UNICEF Finally is including children with disabilities
What are your thoughts on the video?
Chronic Illness Energy Cycle
OH LORD THIS^^^^
I really hate the fucking Cognitive therapy my new therapist is doing. Oh to have someone who does EMDR again.
[Image: 6-piece blue colored background with a Siamese cat.Text reads: “Every healthy person knows exactly how I should fix myself.”]
Stephen Fry, the closest thing there is to a deity in my life.
i wish more people would understand this.
Again, reblogging due to adding text transcripts. Sorry for the delay!
Me: I’m not a stroller!
Manager2: No, I understand that. But I can’t allow uhm, I’m not allowed to have wheelchairs—
Me: You can call the cops on me—
Manager2: *shakes his head* We’re not going to do that.
Me: Then I’m going to stay here.
Friend: Can you just try to be reasonable?! She’s not any sort of danger and she’s not doing anything wrong.
Manager2: I know. My only concern is—
Me: This is discrimination.
Manager2: I understand that’s how you’re feeling but I’m not trying to be discriminatory—
Me: No no this is discrimination. You’re not allowing a disabled person to skate on the ice. That is called discrimination. I can get the ADA on your asses.
Manager2: I’m more than willing to talk with anyone my only concern is the safety of the other people on the ice.
Me: Okay. I’ve been here for ages.
Friend: She’s not doing anything wrong.
Manager2: I understand. The rules are that you’re not allowed to have anything out on the ice.
Me: You’re not allowed, so disabled people aren’t allowed on the ice. *friend takes over the camera* That’s what you’re saying?
Manager2: What I’m saying is—
Me: Disabled people are not allowed on the ice. Tell ‘em. Say it. *I point at my face* Say it.
Manager2: I understand you’re frustrated and upset, I’m not trying—
Me: Yeah, I’m really upset. This is discrimination.
Friend: This is very unfair.
Me: It is.
Manager2: I’m more than willing to do anything that will help but I—
Me: Let me skate—
Manager2: I have to—
Me: —That would help!
Manager: I have to make sure everyone is safe on the ice.
Me: Everybody is safe! I haven’t run into anybody!
Friend: I’ve been skating with her
Me: I’m a human being I don’t deserve this type of treatment!
Manager2: I’m not worried about everyone else
Friend: I’ve been skating with her and she hasn’t been any sort of danger! If anything I’m more dangerous because I can’t skate. She hasn’t been dangerous.
Manager2: So what I’m going to do is maybe afterwards I’ll let you skate today but afterwards we can talk and I can figure out how in the future if I need to get a special permission from city hall to allow it I will do it. I will do whatever I need to do so maybe we can talk after. I’ll let you skate—
Me: There’s nothing to talk about! You let disabled people skate, that’s all there is to it!
Manager2: I just have to make sure it is—
Me: I bought skates. I spent four dollars on skates that I’m not even using.
Me: So I’m on the ice. I have every legal right to be here. You can call the cops on me but I am not leaving.
Manager2: Like I said, I just said—
Me: And I will come again if I want.
Manager2: That’s what I just said. We can talk afterwards but I’ll allow you to skate today and talk to you afterwards if that’s possible.
Me: It’s totally unfair. Fine.
Friend: Why can’t she just be here right now?
Manager2: That’s what I said.
Me: But why do I have to talk to you afterwards?
Manager2: Because I want to make sure that I’m following all the rules that are—
Me: Obviously you’re not. You’re not letting people skate.
Friend: She is following the rules.
Manager: But my rules for the rink are to make sure people are being safe. If I’m not doing that, then I’m not—
Me: How am I being unsafe?
Manager:—following what I’m supposed to do.
Me: How is me being on the ice unsafe?
Manager: *opens mouth but doesn’t form words*
Me: If I am unsafe, then you should get me off the ice right now.
Manager2: I’m allowing you to because you said you do not want to get off the ice. What I’m saying is we can talk about it afterwards
Me: It means you can’t get me off the ice.
Friend: The managers said that all she needed was ice skates. She bought them. She’s not even using them.
Manager2: Alright. What I’m saying is go ahead and skate and afterwards we can talk and that way I can make sure I can protect everybody that’s on the ice.
Friend: Who are you protecting?! She’s not any sort of danger!
Me: I’m not a monster. Jesus.
Manager2: It’s not about any of that. I would do the same thing about anyone else who would bring anything out on the ice.
Me: I understand that but these are my legs! These are my legs. Those are your legs, those are your legs, those are her legs. I’m sorry mine are different.
Manager2: It isn’t about that. I would like you to talk afterwards if you don’t want to I understand. I’d like to uhh
Me: Okay. We will talk afterwards. And you will let disabled people on the ice without a problem.
Manager2: Okay. Great. So enjoy and we’ll talk afterwards.
I used to be a figure skater. I’ve got $600 skates my mother gifted to me before I became disabled, just sitting on a shelf because I’m to saddened by the idea of fully giving up that part of my life.
Now I wanna strap ‘em on and do a wheel-in at this rink.
This is absurd. CRIPPLE WHEEL IN FTW!!!!!!
Yes it is as there is a complete lack of common sense of the part of the girl who wants to go on the rink in her wheelchair.
I have driven and ridden on ice on a variety of vehicles including my wheelchair and the one overriding factor with ice is control or lack of it.
You are at the mercy of gravity & momentum unless you have studded tyres and in a chair you have no meaningful control.
I don’t think this is discrimination, I think its actually a common sense application of health and safety and one probably required by the rinks insurers.
If the person aiding the person in the chair slips or falls the person in the chair becomes an unguided missile who could hurt both themselves and other skaters and as the rink owners have a duty of care to those that use their facilities it would be a litigation nightmare.
Far better would be to arrange with the manager to come in when the rink is deserted and sign a personal injury waiver…
Never let overzealous demanding of rights get in the way of common sense
The last time I drove my car on ice I felt perfectly in control of it. Guess what, it has winter tyres.
The last time I used my wheelchair on ice I felt perfectly in control of it. Guess what, that has winter tyres too!
Soft compound wheelchair tyres are perfectly usable on ice. Go and watch her video, where’s the control problem? Last week when the entire country was covered in ice and snow I was rolling a couple of miles a day in it. No slipping or sliding unless or until I wanted to. Likewise in my car, where I drove for miles and miles past nubbits driving cars using summer cars and sliding all over the place.
Strangely, yes we are at the mercy of gravity. We’re at the mercy of gravity, you may have come across it, it’s what holds us to this fair planet of hours. When you’re on ice, far from being at the mercy of it, gravity is your friend because it increases grip.
So, about the “person aiding the person in the chair” - where is this assumption that we have minders and aids? I think the word you’re looking for is “friend” here. A person with their hands on the handles of the chair will have far less control over it than the user, especially on ice. The user of the chair is applying forces to the wheels, which directly applies it to the ice, and further more the chair is stable and unable to fall over because it has four points of contact. The person with their hands on the handles has a high centre of gravity, making them dynamically unstable, yet the point at which they can apply forces to the chair is above even that adding to the instability. Plus the forces they can apply only act on the chair, essentially a reaction force between their skates and the chair using their floppy body and muscles to do it. Given this, the chair and its user can easily pull them over onto their face if the person behind attempted to brake it. The user can guide the chair much more capably in almost any situation compared to the person behind it, your accusation of an “unguided missile” has no basis other than hyperbole and an utter disregard for physics.
So finally, your comment on studded tyres, whilst they are available for cars in most cases in either of our countries they have little use or purpose because of the damage they do to roads. Which, incidentally is the same reason you wouldn’t use studded wheelchair tyres on an ice-rink; it would utterly chew up the surface of the ice, wrecking it, whilst at the same time removing any of the enjoyment of being on ice.
What you are calling common sense appears to have no basis whatsoever in either physics or experience, and worse than that indicates a woeful disregard for proper preparation of your vehicles and wheelchair for winter.
This is discrimination, and ableism, pure and simple, and this person up there is adding to it. There is a toxic assumption that wheelchair users are not responsible and incapable, and it’s everywhere.
You know, earlier this week I was rolling through the shopping mall that I park in for work, yes I was by myself, how shocking that someone with a disability is allowed out by herself with responsibility for herself! I went up to the lifts and hit the elevator call button, down the end I heard one go “DING” as it opened its doors. I rolled on down to it, where I see two able-bodied people stepping out of the doors. So I stop. After I’ve already stopped, and watching whilst I wait for them to move out of the way, one of them spots me and makes a shocked squeal and jumps. As they walk off I hear them swearing about me.
No-one expects the cripple, apparently.
^ Best commentary ever.
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