BOW DOWN, MACKLEMORE: Why ‘Same Love’ is NOT My Queer AnthemKelly Fox, GF Queer Issues Correspondent
The Queen and some dude.
Like many others, I am pissed off…
Dear Friends who are thinking about voting against same-sex marriage:
When you hear or read the “anti” side making comments about gays, replace the word “gay” with my name.
Burrow getting married is a threat to all families.
Burrow cannot be a good parent.
Burrow doesn’t love, it is only lust.
Burrow shouldn’t be allowed to marry.
Burrow is what is wrong with this country.
Burrow is ‘fixable’ with electroshock therapy
If Burrow can marry then we should just let people marry animals.
I hope that this contextualizes the argument for you.
The “gay movement” is simply about people who are in love and want to spend their lives together. Its about a legal recognition and protection of our commitment to our partner.
Northwest Rainbow Alliance of the Deaf (NWRAD) - promotes solidarity and equality through advocacy and communication avenues to deaf, deaf-blind, and hard of hearing gays, lesbian, bisexuals, transgender, queers and intersex (GLBTQI) individuals,…
Long story short Admin #1 in the chatroom called something gay meaning it was stupid. When I pointed out that this was NOT COOL we got in an argument culminating in this gem from Admin #1:
it’s impossible to argue with irrational ignorance
which is straight up out of the “How to be a Bully” handbook. Call the other side irrational. This is supposed to be a SAFE SPACE FOR TRAUMA SURVIVORS. I did not feel safe especially when my sexuality was slurred and then I was bullied because I was insulted.
So I sent emails to the other 3 Admins. Only one replied.
From an email with Admin #2:
I know Admin #1 very well for years. I am a gay male and she doesn’t ever offend me in any way. I am sure she did not mean to offend you by using the word “gay” with a negative connotation. As you know, many other people in the world do the same thing. The word gay has many meanings: happy, homosexual, and unfortunately stupid. Words are used in other countries for different things. For example in the United Kingdom and Australia the word ”fag” means cigarette.
My point is that she is not saying your sexuality is stupid or implying
anything along that nature. I am sorry your feelings were hurt in our chat
rooms. We collectively as an administrative team work very hard to keep the
website safe, secure, and welcoming of all members regardless of their
background, race, gender, and sexuality.
There were many MANY more emails where I was called SEXIST for having called Admin #1 heterosexist. And also told that my definition of heterosexism:
Discrimination or prejudice against homosexuals on the assumption that heterosexuality is the norm.
My current space is not understanding why saying gay = bad is a bad thing. I’m trying, DEAR LORD I’M TRYING. Contacted all the other admins, on my like 6th email to the guy who emailed me back.
Where do you go to talk to other survivors?
I’m in a survivor’s forum and some asshole (a mod, no less) says that somethings “really gay” meaning that it sucks. This mod then goes on to say that I’m being irrational and ignorant.
Does this sound like a safe space to you? What the fuck do I do?